If you aren’t sure if a pair of pants or shorts is tight, or possibly even too tight, here are a few tests to as measure:
1. If you are constantly pulling them out of your crotch
2. If you can see your underwear/panty
3. If you can see parts of your gluteus maximus (butt)
The same would go for skirts/dresses.
My how we have lost the purity and sanctity of our sexuality. As the days grow older, the trend of “more” is better seems to grow- more skin and bodily parts, that is. From the dawn of time, women have this need to feel, well, needed. It’s quite natural, and unfortunately a curse of human kind. Women tend to look for gratification, satisfaction in their worth through use of their bodies. I’m not totally against having a sense of ‘style’. After all, even the early pilgrims and prairie girls think their style is good (which I am increasingly likening).
Finding modesty in the world is one thing, but it’s sad that it’s sometimes hard press to find modest feminism in the church. By modest feminism, I mean feminine (appealing women’s apparel) that is attractive yet modest in expression of such. The world has abused and misused (as is what it does) the word feminine/feminism. It has turned what is meant to be good and perverted it. No surprise.
As for a woman of godly character, to these guidelines should she aspire:
1Tim2:9 likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.
So what if the world thinks you’re weird? You’re to be set apart- different. For where is your treasure? In the world’s acceptance? So shall a woman not think herself ugly or unacceptable if she fails to show cleavage or wear lowriders so that her belly may show and “appeal” to coolness. Do you contemplate how to “strut your stuff”? It shows our vanity, our insecurity, our great selfish need of attention. “Look at me, look at me” says the self-centeredness of me. This is not the mind of the godly. Those parts, though beautiful, are reserved- if single, for your marriage; if married, for your husband. Now I know that some would say “that’s the old way of thinking”, “that’s so traditional”. So is 1Tim2:9 irrelevant for today? I think not. Only if you desire to satisfy your own ways, tread with care. Will you cause another to stumble for the sake of your liberty? May it not be. For you are to put others before self. We were created as sexual beings but also to use self-control. Our sexuality is sacred and is not to be used in a debased way. As a believer, we are to use them to the glory of God. (1Cor6) Your body is a temple for God’s use. Just because we were created as sexual creatures does not mean that we have liberty to do what we will, that is, IF we are seeking the will and honor of our Christ. I pray that we women would be aware how we should take care in how we present ourselves in public, for our lives are not just about us, but first about God, then others. For it is said, “Love God first, then love your neighbor”. (Matt22:37) It is not said, “put yourself first, then think of your neighbor”. It’s a tough balance of understanding and loving. I know, this is radical. Somehow, God’s word is, well, radical. Are we loving our brothers and honoring our sisters by how we dress and adorn ourselves? By loving our brothers, I mean, causing unnecessary offense or stumbling. Your breasts are precious and sacred for a greater purpose than to expose them for sake of “style”. Private parts are named that for a reason. There’s a reason the bible speaks to lust and sexual immorality and fleeing from it! It’s still relevant for today! Our bodies have special purposes. And in ‘honoring our sisters’, I mean are we considering their husbands consciences, protecting their minds & their eyes. Are we considering their brothers, their fathers, their sons? As I begin to deal with a teenage son and the world of lust and desires of a man’s heart, I am more and more sensitive to these issues. I pray the church, at the least, would humble themselves in this issue, and consider the brother and sister, and love them in how they use their bodies. May we women use our bodies to the glory of Christ, in good works, in modesty, not flashing body parts unnecessarily and inappropriately.