Youth Ministry: Parents, Community, Peers, and More

Posted: June 29, 2010 by Rick Hogaboam in Children, Discipleship/Sanctification, Family, Youth Ministry

This is a very rough outline I used in a lecture some years back on the role of youth ministry within the Church. I did warn it is a rough outline that was only intended for my eyes while giving the lecture, but I make it available here for you to decipher if you are interested in doing so.

Strategic Youth Ministry:

Plans and goals for Spiritual Growth

Today’s Youth ministry and expectations-

  • full time pastor for youth
  • various programs, lots of activities
  • responsible for evangelism and discipleship of youth

History of Youth Ministry: memory.

Biblical Outline of Responsibilities for the training of our youth:

Parents Responsible

Deu 4:7  For what great nation is there that has a god so near to it as the LORD our God is to us, whenever we call upon him?

Deu 4:8  And what great nation is there, that has statutes and rules so righteous as all this law that I set before you today?

Deu 4:9  “Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children–

Deu 4:10 how on the day that you stood before the LORD your God at Horeb, the LORD said to me, ‘Gather the people to me, that I may let them hear my words, so that they may learn to fear me all the days that they live on the earth, and that they may teach their children so.’

Deu 4:40 Therefore you shall keep his statutes and his commandments, which I command you today, that it may go well with you and with your children after you, and that you may prolong your days in the land that the LORD your God is giving you for all time.”

Deu 6:1  “Now this is the commandment, the statutes and the rules that the LORD your God commanded me to teach you, that you may do them in the land to which you are going over, to possess it,

Deu 6:2  that you may fear the LORD your God, you and your son and your son’s son, by keeping all his statutes and his commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life, and that your days may be long.

Deu 6:3  Hear therefore, O Israel, and be careful to do them, that it may go well with you, and that you may multiply greatly, as the LORD, the God of your fathers, has promised you, in a land flowing with milk and honey.

Deu 6:4  “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one.

Deu 6:5  You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.

Deu 6:6  And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.

Deu 6:7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

Deu 6:8  You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.

Deu 6:9  You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

Pro 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Act 2:39  For the promise is for you and for your children and for all who are far off, everyone whom the Lord our God calls to himself.”

Eph 6:1  Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

Eph 6:2  “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise),

Eph 6:3 “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”

Eph 6:4  Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Col 3:20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

Col 3:21  Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

1Ti 3:4 He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive,

1Ti 3:5  for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?

1Ti 3:12 Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well.

2Ti 3:14  But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it

2Ti 3:15  and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.

2Ti 3:16  All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,

2Ti 3:17  that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.

Scripture would seem to imply that the model of youth ministry today where parents entrust their children to other adults for Spiritual nurture is foreign, let alone entrusting the care of your child to a school.

Well, boys were able to attend synagogue at age 5, and bar mitzphawed at 12 , at which point they were considered an adult. In the synagogue, they would open the Torah and read from it.

We can see here already the early formulation of ministry to children and youth in their house of worship.  Jesus affirms this as a good thing when as a child he went to the Temple to be about His Father’s business away from his earthly parents.

Luk 2:39  And when they had performed everything according to the Law of the Lord, they returned into Galilee, to their own town of Nazareth.

Luk 2:40  And the child grew and became strong, filled with wisdom. And the favor of God was upon him.

Luk 2:41  Now his parents went to Jerusalem every year at the Feast of the Passover.

Luk 2:42  And when he was twelve years old, they went up according to custom.

Luk 2:43  And when the feast was ended, as they were returning, the boy Jesus stayed behind in Jerusalem. His parents did not know it,

Luk 2:44  but supposing him to be in the group they went a day’s journey, but then they began to search for him among their relatives and acquaintances,

Luk 2:45  and when they did not find him, they returned to Jerusalem, searching for him.

Luk 2:46  After three days they found him in the temple, sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking them questions.

Luk 2:47  And all who heard him were amazed at his understanding and his answers.

Luk 2:48  And when his parents saw him, they were astonished. And his mother said to him, “Son, why have you treated us so? Behold, your father and I have been searching for you in great distress.”

Luk 2:49  And he said to them, “Why were you looking for me? Did you not know that I must be in my Father’s house?”

Luk 2:50  And they did not understand the saying that he spoke to them.

Luk 2:51  And he went down with them and came to Nazareth and was submissive to them. And his mother treasured up all these things in her heart.

Luk 2:52  And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man.

:39 Parents were devout, obeyed the law of God

* We need to walk according to God’s word as parents!!!

:40 Jesus grew strong in body and wise in Spirit, assuming that Mary and Joseph provided a God fearing homelife for the boy Jesus.

* Children need to grow up in balanced proportion in both body and Spirit.

:41 Jesus parents traveled every year for the Passover, confirms their devotion, 65 mile walk, women not obligated to go, and yet Mary goes which shows a greater devotion on her part for worship

*they went to church as it could be said…this is where it starts. It is here that Jesus observes the importance of worship!!!

:42 Parents went regularly, and here they take Jesus, whether first time or not can be debated, but our only data shows that he did go as a child

:43 Mary and Joseph would leave after the full seven days of the feast, while many others would only come for a single day, and at the most 2 because it was such a burdensome to be away for so long.

  • Get involved with Church life and involve your kids

:44 Children would walk with women in front, while young men would walk in rear with dad…they would stop for the night and then gather amongst their families.

:46 took 3 days of searching, in addition to the 7 days there, the time walking back and forth…setting them back

  • Jesus was among the teachers at the Temple with the Rabbis, the best of the best, the cream of the crop

:47 The people were astonished at Jesus, he was well-versed, had learned much. Where? At home:

Luk 4:16  And he came to Nazareth, where he had been brought up. And as was his custom, he went to the synagogue on the Sabbath day, and he stood up to read.

Luk 4:17  And the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was given to him. He unrolled the scroll and found the place where it was written,

Luk 4:18  “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed,

Luk 4:19  to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.”

Luk 4:20  And he rolled up the scroll and gave it back to the attendant and sat down. And the eyes of all in the synagogue were fixed on him.

Luk 4:21  And he began to say to them, “Today this Scripture has been fulfilled in your hearing.”

Luk 4:22  And all spoke well of him and marveled at the gracious words that were coming from his mouth. And they said, “Is not this Joseph’s son?”

  • Jesus learned in his local synagogue and also no doubt at home, vs. 40 says that Jesus grew up well in Nazareth.

:48 – parents were shocked, prob more at how Jesus was doing, more so than His interest in such things…feel that Jesus had deliberately stayed back, knowing the inconvenience it would cost His parents, but Jesus deemed that it was well worth it and perhaps at this Passover it became clearer to Him upon reflection of the sacrifice what his fate would one day be…he was not ready to leave yet, wanted to remain

:49 – 50  parents didn’t understand Him, in opposition to the rabbis and people who were astonished at what he said, we see here that his parents didn’t fully understand the significance of what was being said, well aware of who He was, they were still confused.

–          Jesus had to be there, he volitionally realized His need for instruction and worship at the temple, he was not there because his parents made him, but He was there bc He realized it was where He needed to be.

:51 Jesus is submissive to his parents, affirms the importance of obedience to parents, if anyone could say I have no need of you, it would be Jesus, Jesus could have embarrassed them over their misunderstanding, their simplicity of thought, yet Jesus lives out his childhood in obedience to them…at work with father, etc.

:52 Jesus increased in wisdom and stature among God and man

  • Jesus grew in the atmosphere in which his parents provided, his life was lived in community, relational, not just praying 24/7 or reading torah 24/7

We see importance of obedience in home!!!

We see need for balanced growth in both body and Spirit!!!

We see need for attending worship with children!!!

We see need for involvement in church life!!!

We see need for Biblical instruction, as Jesus received at synagogue and Temple with scholars, asking questions, etc!!! Do we provide this for our youth?

We see need for faith to be lived among others in community!!! Relational ministry!!!

Fun events, catechism, worship, parental resources, church life, service events…youth ministry needs to be balanced and remain faithful to instruction in Scripture and relationships…small groups, Sunday school, Sunday night, etc.

Youth ministry primarily responsibility of parents, supplemented by community…we need to keep this perspective.

Even Jesus benefited from parents devotion…shows us that no matter how inadequate we feel, none were as much as Mary and Joseph and yet Jesus submitted to them and benefited from it.


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