Porn Kills…

Posted: October 28, 2010 by Rick Hogaboam in Discipleship/Sanctification, Family, Fatherhood, Marriage
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Ed Stetzer offers 6 problems with Porn based on a recent study conducted by Patrick Faban (link).

Some of the findings are as follows (quoting Stetzer):

  • Pornography is addictive, and neuroscientists are beginning to map the biological substrate of this addiction.
  • Users tend to become desensitized to the type of pornography they use, become bored with it, and then seek more perverse forms of pornography.
  • Married men who are involved in pornography feel less satisfied with their conjugal relations and less emotionally attached to their wives. Wives notice and are upset by the difference.
  • Pornography use is a pathway to infidelity and divorce, and is frequently a major factor in these family disasters.
  • Among couples affected by one spouse’s addiction, two-thirds experience a loss of interest in sexual intercourse.
  • Many adolescents who view pornography initially feel shame, diminished self-confidence, and sexual uncertainty, but these feelings quickly shift to unadulterated enjoyment with regular viewing.
  • The main defenses against pornography are close family life, a good marriage and good relations between parents and children, coupled with deliberate parental monitoring of Internet use. Traditionally, government has kept a tight lid on sexual traffic and businesses, but in matters of pornography that has waned almost completely, except where child pornography is concerned. Given the massive, deleterious individual, marital, family, and social effects of pornography, it is time for citizens, communities, and government to reconsider their laissez-faire approach.

It’s not as if we Christians are lacking in conviction over the wrongness of pornography; it poisons everything. Pornography is like a drug. It is intoxicating and stimulating and offers ever diminishing returns, thus leading to more pronounced excursions into more vile forms, while also breeding a discontent with our spouses.

Mark Driscoll offers a resource that may be helpful for those of you in the battle. Here is a link to the book, “Porn Again Christian: A Frank Discussion on Pornography and Masturbation“.

We are reponsible for exerting all sexual desire towards our spouses or future spouses. Pornography is a sign of selfishness and laziness. There is always hope because God’s grace is always present, but let us never presume God’s grace in such a way that we can take a detour into such sin and will return home safely. Our hope must also include a trembling fear over the wrath that our lust incites in God’s character. God reserves the right to make your life miserable and even to take your life for sexual sin.

1 Corinthians 10:1–8 (ESV) — 1 For I want you to know, brothers, that our fathers were all under the cloud, and all passed through the sea, 2 and all were baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea, 3 and all ate the same spiritual food, 4 and all drank the same spiritual drink. For they drank from the spiritual Rock that followed them, and the Rock was Christ. 5 Nevertheless, with most of them God was not pleased, for they were overthrown in the wilderness. 6 Now these things took place as examples for us, that we might not desire evil as they did. 7 Do not be idolaters as some of them were; as it is written, “The people sat down to eat and drink and rose up to play.” 8 We must not indulge in sexual immorality as some of them did, and twenty-three thousand fell in a single day.

In otherwards, a single act of sexual sin desrves this same punishment of the 23,000 who fell dead. This account speaks of how God truly feels about things. If you are alive and breathing, there is hope, because God has already been gracious to you. God, however, won’t be mocked and won’t contend with rebellion forever and will inevitably give you over. The study confirms the death that porn brings about. You reap what you sow, so stop sowing to the flesh…it will kill you.

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Comments
  1. Jonathan says:

    High five bro, thanks for the Stetzer info and the link to the study. Useful information. I absolutely recommend Driscoll’s eBook. Just know that it is not a comfortable read, but a confrontative one, yet it isn’t just pointing out sin – it calls men to their real purposes as husbands.

  2. Raechel Lyn says:

    I whole-heartedly agree with the article on Porn. I am aware first-hand on the devastation of porn as it has ruined my marriage. My husband has struggled with it deceitfully for 25 years of our marriage and all of his life. It has left us with a failing marriage and kids that struggle with porn and have no trust in their father. It has caused me to abhor sexual relations with him and mis-trust men in general. It has also greatly contributed to my feelings of inadequacy as a women,wife and sexual partner. I cannot even explain the evil destructiveness of porn in words but I know that it needs to be stopped. Men need to grow up, wake up and ask for help if they are being hooked and held captive by the lie behind porn. They need to wake up before it is too late. Before they lose their integrity. Before they lose their wives, children, job and everything that is dear and important to them.

    For me…it is too late. The damage is done and I have tried. God knows I have spent the last 25-years in personal counseling trying to find out what was wrong with me. Now I know that NOTHING is wrong with me. I am beautiful and captivating..to God and to a man that hasn’t been poisoned by the lie’s of the devil. I must move on..and leave my husband to his own devices praying that God would reach him before it is too late.

    I pray that many would read my story and make that decision to leave the ugly, grips of sin and porn. Ask God for forgiveness and replace the lie with the truth.. No woman can compete with a computer generated, make believe lie… she shouldn’t have to and most of us are getting tired of it. Tired enough to say “enough” and leave….

    Thanks for listening.. Get rid of the plastic device that holds you captive if you can’t say no….

  3. Raechel Lyn says:

    I left a message on here yesterday and I am actually not sure why it didn’t get posted. I think guys need to know about the destructiveness of porn from the mouth of a woman. If you don’t want to post it out of fear of offending someone than that is your choice…but I will not stop speaking against it.

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